Speak out, Girlfriend!
Who you are
You are a hard-working, professional woman, dedicated to your career, but you have very little or no experience speaking in public. Or you are a business woman who has started your own business. You think of yourself as more of an introvert. You tend to let others be the “stars” even though you know you have something of value to share about your work.
You know that professional development is important, and you are very careful about selecting programs on which to spend your time, energy and financial resources.
What your issues tend to be
It makes you nervous to even think about speaking in public. This isn’t just about “making a speech.” You even get nervous when you’re about to meet someone new, and are not sure what to talk about. As an intelligent professional woman, you have something worthwhile to share, but you hesitate to speak up at meetings.
As a growing entrepreneur, you want to build a business based on and idea or product that fuels your passion, but you get tongue-tied when you try to talk about your ideas. What surprises you is that you might be quite comfortable speaking in some situations, and then get incredibly nervous in others.
If we’re really being honest here, sometimes you feel a sense of inadequacy and self–doubt that affects more than just your ability to speak in public. There may be “flaws” or imperfections that you see in yourelf, and would just rather no one else could see.
At the same time, you sometimes feel uncertain about your own unique talents.
You believe in spending time, energy and resources on personal and professional development, but funds for such things are somewhat limited, and you need to choose carefully.
What you need most right now
What you need right now is a solution that allows you to begin to free up the energy that is trapped by your fears. You need the tools to help you shift from nervousness to confidence in your own competence. When you attend networking events, you need to be able to introduce yourself and your business in a way that engages your listeners, and leaves them wanting to know more. What may surprise you is that this process will also increase joy in your work and life experiences!
There are nine steps you can take to help you transform your nervousness and speak out at networking events and conferences as the confident, competent, expert business and professional woman you are. These are the nine steps of
The Speak Out, Girlfriend! System TM
Nine Steps to get from Fearful to Fabulous
SET YOUR INTENTION: The first step is to set your intention, to explore why it matters to you to overcome your nervousness. Why is it worth it to make an investment of time, energy and financial resources? Another way to ask this is, why do you care about this? Because, as Noralee learns in my children’s book, Noralee’s Adventures on Planet Ifwee, if we care, it’s magic!
SIT IN THE MOMENT: Next you need to learn how to be with the feelings of nervousness rather than run away from them by avoiding situations that could be important to your career or your business. Cultivating the skill of “being in the present moment” immediately to transform the feelings you were trying to avoid.
SEE WHAT’S GETTING IN THE WAY: Your primary focus needs to be a gentle inquiry into the source of your nervousness and fears. Fear is often the result of limiting beliefs that we store in our brains from early experiences. You need the relief that comes from understanding how our brains work, how storing limiting beliefs can actually freeze our potential to take positive action. And you need to learn a couple of tools to begin discovering the limiting beliefs you may have stored over the years.
START TRANSFORMING LIMITING BELIEFS: Here’s the really good news: by simply becoming aware of your limiting beliefs, you can begin the process of freedom from your fears. Then you need to learn a couple of tools that will allow you to transform those limiting beliefs, and replace them with the truth of your own possibilities.
SPEAK THE TRUTH OF WHO YOU REALLY ARE: Get very clear about the value that you bring to the table. View your authentic self with honesty, compassion, and courage, so you will bring this self with you when you show up in public. Come to recognize your unique talents and how they may have been squashed by early childhood experiences.
SYMPATHIZE WITH YOUR LISTENER OR AUDIENCE: Learn how to put the focus on your listener or audience. When you speak about your business in a way that focuses on the needs of your listener, you inspire them to want to know more about you and what you have to offer. Put this awareness into the wording of your prepared introduction.
SHARE YOUR EXPERTISE: Think about what you have to offer to your audience, and how your wisdom and knowledge can make a difference in their lives. What is the “skeleton” of your body of work?
SELECT YOUR STORIES: Stories make the difference between talks that are dry and even boring, and those that engage your audience. Learn how to recall and select those compelling stories that will enhance your presentation.
SHINE! Learn a few simple acting/presentation techniques that will help you feel more comfortable in your body as your speak to your audience. This will allow your own brilliance, from deep within you, to shine forth, enlighten your audience and create a valuable, enjoyable experience. They will see you as an expert that they can count on.
This is not a “one time and you’re done” process. Rather it’s an ongoing process of discovering your voice so you can experience confidence, competence, and even joy when showing up and speaking out!
Here’s what you can expect to experience from working through the Speak Out, Girlfriend! System.™
- Get clear on your intention, the “why” that will become a powerful source of courage for this process.
- Understand how your brain stores fears and how to release them.
- Expand your capacity to “sit” with your feelings and move through them. (This practice is also great for stress relief!”)
- Experience the relief that comes from recognizing your limiting beliefs.
- Become skilled at transforming the limiting beliefs into positive energy.
- Describe your unique qualities and talents in ways that empower you and motivate others to want to work with you.
- Develop an introduction or “elevator speech” that focuses on how you meet the needs of your clients, and forms the foundation for comfortable, effective conversations with prospects.
- Explore what aspects of your expertise would be perfect to share in a presentation at a networking event or conference.
- Learn how to present reports and facilitate meetings in ways that engage your audience and demonstrate leadership.
- Discover personal stories that will enhance your talk, and engage your audience.
- Begin to prepare a value-packed, 30-minute Signature Talk that reflects how your expertise serves your clients; one that you can offer at networking events or expand to deliver at professional conferences.
- Learn how to frame your message to fit your audience.
- Learn a few, simple acting techniques that will boost your confidence when you are “on stage.”
- Taste the joy of beginning to feel more comfortable and confident when showing up and speaking out.
Here is an example of what an introduction sounds like when based on these steps:
Hi, I’m Terry Nicholetti and you can find me at Speakoutgirlfriend.com. I work with women in business who are nervous when they have to give a presentation or even introduce themselves. They’d like to get over it, because they know they are missing opportunities to attract more business. One of my clients told me, “I’m glad you’re not like other speaking coaches. You helped me realize I had everything I needed inside me before you taught skills. I nailed my presentation!” Want to know more? Go to speakoutgirlfriend.com (27 seconds!)
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Want to learn more about how the Speak out, Girlfriend!™ System can help you become more successful in your business or career?
Email me to schedule your complimentary 20 minute chat. Let’s see if we can work together to begin your journey from Fearful to Fabulous when you want to speak out! Email: [email protected]
Blessings to you from your Chief Encourager!